Getting to know Me
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yea, i mean, of course a lot of times you really won’t be able to say anything but like you said ‘it’s better than nothing’. You get to tell yourself afterwards, well at least i walked up and did something, even if it wasn’t as perfect as it was in my head. Sarah
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oh yea, since you’re new….go into preferences and set the number of words that you can read to like, the biggest one if you want to read a lot of the posts in here. Because some of us(me..haha) tend to go a little overboard when writing messages…haha SARAH
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->>I know everyone here has this problem, what should I do? >Also, i found that if you have something that you want to do, that takes >courage and stuff to do…i just do it really fast before i can think about >it. >Like if i want to answer a question in school, i just raise my hand real >quick >and there’s no backing out of it. For example, today i tried out for county >chorus(wahoo!!! crossing my fingers…) and i just didn’t think about it all >day. Then right before the audition i just practiced everything and then i >just >walked into the room and belted out the song and it was over…and ya know >what? it wasn’t that big of a deal at all. I mean, i felt great that i had >done >it. I think that that feeling is a whole lot better then, backing out of >things, like i use to do.(and still do sort of…)
Yeah, Do It as fast as you can without thinking about it…. And then stumble across your words and only get half of what you wanted to say said…. Better than Nothing. Well, You can always say the other half over the phone once you get their number or e-mail. :~) Yes I love Nirvana. Some Favorites are: COME AS YOU ARE, Polly, Negitive Creep, Been A Son, Breed, tourette’s, Rape Me, Pennyroyal Tea. C.K. Dixon *********************** "And if [this post] sounds bad, these people are just gonna have to wait" — Kurt "Unplugged in NY" *********************** "Anarchists, lunitics, and terrorists forever!" - The Alt.Music.Nirvana NG Motto
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Kenny Dixon <ogrot…@aol.comINTHEWAY> wrote in message
news:20000208180107.00877.00000229@ng-co1.aol.com… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> >Also, i found that if you have something that you want to do, that takes > >courage and stuff to do…i just do it really fast before i can think about > >it. > >Like if i want to answer a question in school, i just raise my hand real > >quick > >and there’s no backing out of it. For example, today i tried out for county > >chorus(wahoo!!! crossing my fingers…) and i just didn’t think about it all > >day. Then right before the audition i just practiced everything and then i > >just > >walked into the room and belted out the song and it was over…and ya know > >what? it wasn’t that big of a deal at all. I mean, i felt great that i had > >done > >it. I think that that feeling is a whole lot better then, backing out of > >things, like i use to do.(and still do sort of…) > Yeah, Do It as fast as you can without thinking about it…. And then stumble > across your words and only get half of what you wanted to say said…. Better > than Nothing. Well, You can always say the other half over the phone once you > get their number or e-mail. :~)
Alternatively……you may find a "groove" (Davide’s "magical moments" in Re: Success Story) and say exactly what you wanted to say so eloquently that you surprise yourself. If you do happen to stumble, start again from where you came off the rails! Anthony
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hi hi hi Kenny, Ok, a couple things… >do you think it’s best for me to end all my shyness now? (soon?)
Ok, i think that there really is not way that you can just end shyness like a snap…it’s sort of like those women that are overweight and just want to loose it all at once, not putting any work in to it. So they fall for those gimmicks on TV like "fat blocker" and what they don’t know is that it sort of takes all of their control over bowel movements away and they’ll have accidents, nausea, and who knows what else…but hey! they’re skinny! But i mean, shyness is something that you are, it’s just part of your whole being and there’s nothing that you can do about that. I have found that it is easier to just accept your shyness, then to despise it. Even thought shyness is a part of you, it doesn’t have to be the main part of you. >I know everyone here has this problem, what should I do?
Also, i found that if you have something that you want to do, that takes courage and stuff to do…i just do it really fast before i can think about it. Like if i want to answer a question in school, i just raise my hand real quick and there’s no backing out of it. For example, today i tried out for county chorus(wahoo!!! crossing my fingers…) and i just didn’t think about it all day. Then right before the audition i just practiced everything and then i just walked into the room and belted out the song and it was over…and ya know what? it wasn’t that big of a deal at all. I mean, i felt great that i had done it. I think that that feeling is a whole lot better then, backing out of things, like i use to do.(and still do sort of…) So, that’s all i have to say…haha, oh yea, i’m Sarah and i’m 15 years old. I haven’t been at this NG for very long, but it’s great. Sarah P.S. >(Is this one of those newsgroups like Alt.music.Nirvana where they don’t >care if you cuss?)
i really cuss anytime i feel like it, i don’t think people mind…hey you like Nirvana? moi aussi(me too)
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On 08 Feb 2000 21:17:52 GMT, ogrot…@aol.comINTHEWAY (Kenny Dixon) wrote: >Hi, My name is Kenny Dixon. I’m 17 years old
i’m 17 also, female. I’ve had pretty much the same problems with guys … fell in love with some guy when i was about 12 and basically for a year made a fool of myself. it was just really awkward. i did end up telling him that i like him, but because i was too shy to talk to him otherwise, there was no way for him to know if he liked me back heheh… then i got the internet. i’ve had two boyfriends now and i met both of them online and it’s been pretty good because they get to know you before they meet you so you know what their expectations of you are and are more able to be yourself. oh hey, it’s stressful anyway… i dunno if i’m advocating internet relationships, but i’m advocating meeting people on the internet first. i also caught up with that guy i loved when i was 12 on the internet after about 4 years – he asked me out but by then i wasn’t interested. i guess it just goes to show, if you let people get to know you, they might actually like you 
btw, Kenny – your signature kicks arse. FRIEND OF MINE TO ME : "You are the only person I know who still talks about Kurt" heh – nirvana forever frances.
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Hi, My name is Kenny Dixon. I’m 17 years old and have been shy all of my life. I want to get over being shy as soon as possible. I wasted a year and a half of my life in desperate love with a girl named Rae Greene. She is still the most beautiful girl I’ve ever known. Not only was I shy, but that year and a half wasn’t exactly the best for my self-confidence. I always felt like something I did was wrong. So talking to her was going to be a huge problem. Well, a year and a half has a way of working on your mind and one day I just didn’t give a flying (Is this one of those newsgroups like Alt.music.Nirvana where they don’t care if you cuss?) care. I walked into school and I didn’t care whether she said yes or no. She wasn’t even there. She had that day withdrawn from school. Later, I found out she was pregnant. I have since told her how I’ve felt, but I know nothing can ever grow from this relationship (unless God performs a social miracle for me). This is something I will end up regreting probably for as long as I live. Now, there is this other girl, Eva Godby, whom I think is just great, but just slightly too prissy. That doesn’t matter (Hell, I think it’s pretty cute.) Anyway, now it seems like I’ve learned nothing from the worst heartbreak of my life, ’cause I can’t talk to her. (Positive note: I have at least in a very awkward moment told I thought she was beautiful.) Now, that you know ME, here’s more of an articulation of my problem(s). I’ve read at least 8 diferent sources about shyness (Zimbardo’s "Shyness" being about the best I’ve read.) I have found that it can take seven different mantras all in my head at once.Ex. "Act As If", "You Can’t Control What They Think About You", "There’s Nothing To Be Afraid Of", etc. How do some of you do this? When it gets down to seeing her in the hall and wanting to bump right in and talk, I tense up. I know everyone here has this problem, what should I do? Lastly, all I want right now is to not be shy so that I can at least avoid wasting another year and a half of my life. I’m wondering if I can do that , or do you think it’s best for me to end all my shyness now? (soon?) C.K. Dixon *********************** "And if [this post] sounds bad, these people are just gonna have to wait" — Kurt "Unplugged in NY" *********************** "Anarchists, lunitics, and terrorists forever!" - The Alt.Music.Nirvana NG Motto
