OT: Really Weird School Problem
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -LisaViger wrote: > Thanks so much for the suggestions and support 
. It also really helped > to just write it all down and vent some of that anger *before* the meeting this > morning. > Well, it turned out that the principal wasn’t there today and so this > *scheduled* meeting didn’t take place with him. But, that turned out to be a > good thing. > Instead, I suggested we meet with the school counselor, which we did. And > the school counselor seemed very good at cutting through all the BS and getting > down to what was really going on. > The mother and her son were hostile and unresaonable throughout the whole > meeting, and their true want (having my son neck deep in trouble) was very > clear. The police liaison came in during the last half of the meeting and it > turned out he was a Jackson Co Sheriff, which was fine because we have a few > friends who are as well. > Anyway, it boiled down to "just stay away from each other, don’t say > anything to or about each other." No real blame on either, although the other > kid was so nasty the counselor did get fairly angry with him at several points. > The bite was no one else *felt comfortable* having the meeting taped. I > thought about leaving, but decided to take the opportunity to have the meeting > with the counselor rather than the principal. > I think it turned out OK, and if it comes up again I’m fairly certain I’ll > have the counselor on our side. The principal is basically spineless, so it > never hurts to have someone else in the school in your corner. > What I hate is having to think about *anyone* being on our side or not. > It’s ridiculous and I feel like *I’m* back in middle school. > I suppose it turned out as well as could be expected, and both the mother > and her son lied several times during the meeting (and it was obvious to > all…..and pointed out by the counselor), so at least that sets a precedence > with someone there at the school. > During the meeting, it came out that it’s not only my son the other boy is > doing this to, and the counselor pointed that out. > Anyway, it was about as good as one can expect from a public school (no, I > don’t expect much from them). > But, I’d feel much more comfortable had I taped the whole thing…….. I > guess we’ll have to wait and see what happens. > Thanks so much for listening. It really, really did help . > Lisa
Lisa, Write down as much as you can remember (verbatim if possible) and date it and keep it somewhere where you won’t lose it. (LOL…I guess I’m projecting here because I always lose stuff, especially if I put it somewhere where I know I can find it….) A written description of the lies, the times the counselor pointed them out, etc. is the next best thing to a tape recording. Things like that are often used in supporting courtroom testimony. It really does intimidate the people who lied and the ones judging when brought to their attention at a later time. I’m glad it has worked out somewhat though. Keep us posted… —
